Just because a narcissist is nice to you doesn’t mean they are that it is real. A narcissist is a manipulative individual with a self-serving attitude.
If a narcissist is nice to you, they may not mean what you think. I’ll just be raw. They probably don’t care about you as much as they advertise. Their good behavior usually has an underlying reason that revolves around the selfish benefits of their actions. It’s a hard-to-swallow pill. I understand.
When a narcissist is nice to you, watch out.
Narcissists can be scary. And it’s not always because of physical fears. THE level of manipulation used by this toxic person can have devastating consequences for your mental health and your future. So today we want to explore the real reason why a narcissist plays the niceness card or decides to use a facade to seduce.
Here are some reasons why a narcissist is nice to you.
1. They acquire a narcissistic supply
Never forget that a narcissist must always havesupplyThe source of supply must be willing to pay attention to them and praise them for mundane tasks, or they will crumble.
A narcissist thrives on the devotion of others. So if a narcissist is nice to you, they may be doing it to keep their supply. If they feel like you’re actually doing something for yourself, they’ll go back to love bombing you.
2. They love bomb
By the way love bombinghere’s another reason why a narcissist is nice to you. Initially, this toxic person will shower you with gifts, compliments, and praise. They understand that to ensure narcissistic supply, they need to be loved quickly. And when you do, they gradually reduce their positive behavior.
It’s called love bombing, and it’s sneaky.
3. “Tits” mentality
This is when the narcissist does good things to set you up for future guilt. This is what I mean: They do just enough thoughtful things for you that they can use later in arguments.
A narcissist is notorious for bringing up anything in the past that makes them look good and makes you look bad. If you do something that upsets them, or if you tell them no, they will say something like:
“I’ve done all the nice things for you, and look how you repay me.”
Does this sound familiar?
4. They make you dependent on them
The narcissist is nice to you they retain control. They can say, for example,
“You don’t have to work, I’ll take care of you”.
This is to rob him of his independence so that it will be harder for him to leave them when he realizes who they are. This is a calculated act that most narcissists plan from the beginning. It was often woven into the love bombing they used. And if you choose to let them take care of you, they rarely deliver on their promises.
5. They try to win you back
When the narcissist sees that you he made them upthey do a thing or two. They will either switch to another pool or try to win you back. And if they try to win it back, they get over it with nice gestures.
While some people really want to change to make their relationship work, the narcissist just wants to keep you around because you are usually very empathetic. Empathy is what a narcissist likes to feed on.
6. They want others to see them
One of the reasons a narcissist is nice to you is because they want others to see what they are doing. To those who do not know the truth about them, they appear to be kind and considerate individuals.
As you can see, a narcissist can be nice, but they choose to use niceness only as part of their performance. To them, kindness is as fake as they are. Unless you live with a narcissist or have been in the past, you will not see how evil their actions are.
Why are they like that?
The narcissist lost his true identity early on. Due to various forms of abuse, these toxic individuals have increasingly come to believe that manipulation and self-serving behavior is normal. It isn’t. Usually his victims childhood neglector experience verbal and mental abuse from their parents or other loved ones.
BUT it is not your responsibility to fix them. Because on the one hand, it is incredibly difficult to get them to seek therapy. They deny what they are doing and even claim that you have the problem. They can convince others that you have the problem too. In this way, they can be dangerous people who can ruin your life.
And I know some people really care about a narcissist. But if not he handles them carefullytheir behavior can damage your self-esteem and your overall mental health and well-being. These problems can cause physical health problems in some cases.
So you can suggest that they get help, but don’t let them change how you feel. Stay strong and get away from them if you have to.
Sending you all the love on your journey.
Staff writer at A learning mind
Sherrie Hurd is a professional writer and artist with over 20 years of experience. As a survivor of childhood trauma and multiple forms of abuse, she is an advocate for mental health awareness. Sherrie treats a variety of mental illnesses, including anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. With this background and personal experience, she strives to help others overcome trauma and abuse, cope with mental illness, and heal over time.
