Highly sensitive people are easy to love and easy to live with—as long as you understand our unique needs.
They say we can’t help who we fall in love with, which I think is true. So you can very easily fall in love with extremely sensitive person (HSP). After all, up to 30 percent of the population is HSP, so that’s about a 1 in 3 chance of meeting one.
And if you’re not, there may be an adjustment period. You may wonder why they are more emotional than you. Or why they take other people’s feelings and emotions as their own. Or how they are like this intuitive…
Although I am not a highly sensitive person, I have a family member who has learned a great deal about HSPs through the process.
Here are the most important things you need to know if you are falling in love with a highly sensitive person. If you understand them better, you can communicate more effectively with them and strengthen your relationship. Of course, these may not be all they can be applied to any romantic relationship, but they are a good plan. So let’s begin.
Like what you’re reading? Get our newsletter for HSPs. An email every Friday. Click here to sign up!
15 Things You Need to Know When Falling in Love with a Highly Sensitive Person
1. They are naturally empathetic (to you and others).
In my experience, people seem to be drawn to sensitive people – they have an aura of compassion and understanding that makes others flock to them. They are caring by nature and will do anything to make others feel good, seen and heard. (It can even be seen in their body languageeyes and facial expressions.) You appreciate not only that they are there for others, but also that you understand them.
2. They wear their hearts on their sleeves and are all-in.
HSPs love hard — are so highly tuned into their nervous system that they perceive their emotions in a very real and complex way. They love differently than others, putting their heart and soul into every gesture, word and deed – you don’t have to guess what they feel. And all of this takes some getting used to. However, they are loyal, notice every little detail, and rarely miss an opportunity to give gifts and celebrate special occasions. No matter what they do, they give 100 percent (or more).
3. Disputes and confrontation are avoided.
Sensitive souls know only too well the pain of insults, so they are unlikely to give them away. And since they don’t like conflict, give them time and distance to think things through instead of trying to discuss a controversial topic on the spot.
4. They are easily overstimulated and overwhelmed.
Because highly sensitive people react more strongly to stimuli than others, they are easily overstimulated and overwhelmed. They prefer a low-key environment where the lights are not too bright and the atmosphere is not too loud. They are usually reluctant to go to clubs, house parties or sold-out concerts. For a very sensitive person, a quiet dinner with close friends, a trip to the museum, or the long walk in the forest rather their style.
5. They take on other people’s moods (for better or for worse).
While it’s admirable that HSPs can easily pick up on other people’s emotions and feelings—if you’re happy, they will feel your happiness and joy — also works the other way around. If they meet someone who isn’t in a good mood, they can take on those emotions… and take them home with them. So before you think it’s you responsible for their bad mood, talk to them to find out who (or what) may have triggered it. (After that, they might just want some alone time and not talk about it, so assess the situation and act accordingly.)
6. They need a lot of downtime and alone time.
Because HSPs are more overstimulated than others, it catches up to them – that’s where alone time comes in They need it to unpack and reload. And once their emotional batteries are recharged, they are ready to face the world again.
7. They are creative and purposeful.
When it comes to their passions in life, highly sensitive people tend to be very driven. They put their all into something, whether it’s a personal endeavor or a topic you talk about and are passionate about. And they are usually creativebe it work, personal hobbies or even the way they decorate their home.
8. They sometimes struggle to make decisions.
Making decisions can be challenging for HSPs. They weigh their decisions over and over again to make sure they are making the best. While this may seem a bit wishy-washy or indecisive, I think this is due to their highly analytical minds. They understand that their decisions have consequences and they don’t want to make the wrong decision. Anxiety about time is a characteristic of HSPsso it’s best not to rush or force them to do something until they’ve thought it through completely.
Need to soothe your sensitive nervous system?
HSPs often live with high levels of anxiety, sensory overload, and stress—and negative emotions can overwhelm us. But what if you finally felt at ease?
This is what you will find in it this effective online course Julie Bjelland, one of the best HSP therapists in the world. You will learn to turn off the racing thoughts, end the emotional outpouring, eliminate the sensory overload, and finally make room for your sensitive gifts to shine.
Stop feeling held back and start believing that you can handle anything. Check out this “HSP Toolbox” and start making changes today. Click here for more information.
9. They can be hard on themselves.
When a sensitive person makes a mistake or realizes that they have done something wrong, they are the first to call themselves out because they really do it they feel bad about their actions. Despite being empathetic towards others, they can be their own worst critics – that’s because they strive for perfection in everything they do. Therefore, they can be incredibly hard on themselves.
Like what you’re reading? Get our newsletter for HSPs. An email every Friday. Click here to sign up!
10. They are very self-aware and learn from every situation (good or bad).
Many people think that highly sensitive people take things too personally, but so what? If feelings and overstimulation are running through their heads at every moment, so would you. Still, when someone betrays them, it can be incredibly difficult for an HSP to shake it off and move on. Although they are gracious enough to forgive others, they also know it when to set boundaries (even if it can be difficult). The positive side is that they learn from every situation, both good and bad, so they can avoid repeating past mistakes.
11. They take criticism hard.
Constructive criticism can hurt HSPseven if with good intentions. So before you give them feedback about something—whether it’s a problem they shared with you at work or how to load the dishwasher—be careful how you say it. That doesn’t mean you can never voice your opinions or concerns, especially since relationships are all about communication. But remember that your partner may be more sensitive or reactive than you in a given situation.
12. Great listeners and indeed listen to what he has to say (instead of politely smiling and nodding).
Loving a highly sensitive person means having someone who really listens—actively listens—and pays attention. every single word you say You will be surprised when they remember the important things as well as the little things. However, they are do it remember everything, so keep this in mind. (Don’t try to pull quickly!) Think of it this way: If we’re dealing with a sensitive person, we’re dealing with a human voice recorder.
13. They are very intuitive when it comes to your emotions.
Highly sensitive people are very observant. They pick up not only verbal signals, but also non-verbal ones. That way being in a relationship with an HSP means they are will be able to intuit your feelings and thoughts (no matter how hard you try to hide them). You won’t be able to keep a secret from them either – they’ll sense that things are going on deep below the surface. Likewise, they need transparency and trust in a relationship to make it work. That’s why it’s crucial to stay honest and open.
14. They often have difficulty falling asleep.
You could say that HSPs are natural insomniacs. Because their minds are racing at thousands of miles a minute, highly sensitive people often have trouble falling asleep at night. They tend to overthink, overthink and worry about things, so creating a peaceful environment at night can do wonders for their insomnia. Creating an HSP sanctuary this is a good first step. Plus, they need more sleep than non-HSPsso it’s important to find ways to relax your brain, whether it’s meditating, reading a book, or listening to soothing music before bed.
15. They don’t give up easily.
Sensitive people generally don’t like to give up, and the same is true in their relationships. (Remember how I said they’re loyal?) If you break up with an HSP—or think you and your HSP should “talk” (a precursor to a breakup)—that’s probably what they’ll want. really talk and try to figure out how to salvage any problem/problems. That doesn’t mean they will stay in a bad relationshipbut just know that they won’t give up without a (fair) fight.
HSPs, what would you add to this list? Feel free to share in the comments below!
