When introverts need to recharge at a social event, they use the restroom for what it’s meant for – a “rest room.”
A work party, a networking event or a celebration, somehow we all attend big events as introverts whether we like it or not. (And usually not.)
Of course, if you have a choice, you can decline the invitation. But sometimes our appearance is mandatory, like at the company holiday party, where everyone will be there and need some time for the boss to network event should attend because you really need a new job or the best one my friend’s birthday party.
But don’t worry: If you find yourself at a crowded event and feel like doing the following the community battery is getting dangerously close to zero.
8 delicious ways introverts can recharge at social events
1. Plan ahead, such as saving energy for the days leading up to the event.
Events are often announced in advance, either in a newsletter or by personal invitation. Instead of reacting with dread and anxiety, think of heads-up as a blessing in disguise. Knowing when, where and how long an event will last will help you plan and prepare effectively.
Plus, you can come up with ideas (or research on the Internet!). conversation topics and requests and prepare model answers in advance. That way, you don’t have to waste precious energy on small things, because you’re already one step ahead.
You can also prepare yourself mentally saves the social battery in the week or day(s) prior to the event.
2. Relax outside, either in the corner of the room or outside for a few minutes.
They are independent of the layout of the event location always spots with fewer people per square meter. This can be on the edge of the room or next to some furniture.
Either way, there’s nothing wrong with stepping out of the crowd (while not leaving the event) and taking a breather. This is especially effective if you have “props” like a drink, goodie bag or phone. Plus, nature recharges introverted people (if you happen to have some trees, flowers or a park nearby).
Taking just a few minutes to monitor it may not recharge your battery, but it will prevent it from draining more than necessary. Think of it as scheduling yourself—you may have an important conversation later on, and you need to be as alert and engaged as possible. You can also meet some introvert friends this way!
3. Go to the restroom to “rest”.
When things get really overwhelming or unbearable, you can always use the classic excuse and head to the restroom – it’s called the “rest room” for a reason! You can stay there as long as you need to rest and recharge. (Both Oprah and Amy Schumer – introverts – they said the restroom is also used as an escape!)
Out of politeness, no one will probably ask what took so long. You can even bring something with you that will charge your battery (such as a book or coloring pages). Just be considerate of others if there is only one washroom available as others may need to use it! (Who knows? Maybe another introvert looking to take a “rest” break!)
4. Go with an extroverted friend – they will (happily) discuss most things.
Who said you have to deal with big events alone? Going with a friend has many advantages.
First, you’ll have someone to experience it with you (because getting lost is a lot less stressful with someone you know). You’ll have someone to talk to (or at least hang out with, if neither of you are particularly socially stressed that day). Bonus points if your friend is an extrovertas they can take care of all the conversation and socializing (which they enjoy) and you can tag them without much effort. Just make sure you both understand each other’s needs, otherwise it can be difficult to decide when to leave, etc.
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5. Focus on a few key people you want to talk to.
While this tip focuses on networking and more work-related eventswith proper planning, it also works great at parties. By figuring out in advance who you want to talk to—and what you want to get out of the conversation—you’ll be much more focused and better able to share social tension.
Try (politely of course) to avoid as much small talk as you can and aims to have deeper, more meaningful conversations. This way, you feel fulfilled and can return home from the event inspired, or you can return home having learned something new. And who knows? Maybe you’ll really be glad you attended.
6. Treat it like acting (but not in a fake way).
While we don’t want to put on a facade when we go to these events, developing an “alter ego” of sorts can help. Every time you attend an event, imagine that you are playing a character. This character has higher energy, is more confident and capable resist social situations.
This can help if you’re struggling with an empty social battery, as you can detach from it and embody someone else. It makes the event a little more fun.
Of course, you want to stay true to yourself and only use this “persona” as a complement or highlight to your best qualities, not a replacement.
7. Join a group (and let them do most of the talking).
If you can’t have another conversation without it at all you feel exhausted and socially drainedtry joining a group. In a social environment (where we can move freely) we tend to form conversation circles or semi-circles (often subconsciously). These “social circles” are very fluid, and if you’re subtle enough, no one will notice you’ve joined.
Once you’re ‘in’, you can let the other people do the talking and just nod or smile in the appropriate places. If the conversation not turn to you, respond briefly, and then direct the conversation back to the group.
8. Leave (early) – and know where the nearest exit is.
Don’t worry about leaving events early. Provided you have stayed for a polite amount of time and thanked those involved, you are generally under no obligation to stay until the end.
One option is to gently and quietly slip out of sight. If you’re not happy with that, a good plan can help. If you know an event starts in the afternoon and will likely last into the evening (or night!), be proactive and schedule something for the evening. This will give you a reason to leave and everyone will be understanding. This works best when it’s something that elicits sympathy, like looking at a friend’s cat.
But there’s really no need for an excuse—the point is that you showed up (which is a huge thing for us introverts). Just know where the nearest exit is and go home… 
